Wednesday 30 September 2015

Free Yourself From Judgement



WHAT IS JUDGEMENT?

Judgement is getting overcome by our thoughts and reactions to a person, place, situation or even ourselves. It is often associated with feelings of anger or frustration as it is usually a reaction to something we are opposed to or offended by. We may hear ourselves saying “should” or “should not” or making huge generalisations like “all ........ are ........”. Judgement points the finger of blame and assumes you know the outcome of events. Self judgement involves criticism, “I am” statements and feelings of guilt, remorse or regret.
Judgement closes us off from hearing other points of view and from looking at things from a different perspective. It severs connection to our heart and our inner self.

LETTING GO OF JUDGEMENT

Not judging ourselves, people, things or situations does not mean having no opinion, no discernment or no emotional response. Letting go of judgements means getting out of our head and away from our learned reactions. To stop judging everything as right or wrong and stepping back to consider the bigger picture. No longer only seeing black and white but allowing ourselves to view the whole rainbow.

CONSIDER THIS...

A person is stuck in traffic and will probably be late for a 9am meeting. There are 2 ways this situation could be approached:

1.       Judgemental Reaction
“This #@%! traffic should be going faster, I’m going to be late for my meeting. There’s obviously a lot of women drivers on the road – they’re all totally useless and shouldn’t be allowed out during peak hour. I’m so stupid I should have left earlier.”
This reaction  - allocates blame “women drivers”
                      - generalises “they’re all totally useless”
                                  - includes shoulds and should nots “should be going faster” 
                                                                                      “shouldn’t be allowed out”
                                  - predicts outcome “I’m going to be late”
                                  - judges self “I’m so stupid”
Think of the physical and emotional reaction the person with these beliefs is having to the situation and how they are likely to arrive at the meeting.

2.       Non-judgemental Response
“The traffics really slow this morning, I’m worried I’ll be late for the meeting. I think I’ll pull over at the next street to call work and let them know.”
This reaction - has opinion “traffics really slow”
                    - feels emotion “worried about being late”
                    - uses discernment “I think I’ll pull over and call work”
How may this person arrive at the meeting?

Now these 2 situations are the same with the same probable outcome ie. arriving late for the meeting. However, one is experienced with judgement and one without.

Which experience would you choose?
Which do you choose?

ONE LAST NOTE

Having judgement can make us think we have power and control over a situation – we have pointed the finger of blame (at self and others) and we have decided the way things should or should not be, but using the previous example we can see that by doing this we have actually lost control, we have handed it over and become a victim of the situation.

So next time you notice yourself reacting with judgement – hear negative self talk, generalisations or place blame, ask yourself
“Who said?”                       “Is what I’m saying here actually true?”
“How could I view this differently?”             “Is this really how I want to react, feel and be?”

Answer with your heart, your deep inner truth, not your head. Reword any negative self talk instantly and notice the physical and emotional changes you have just created for yourself –
Breathe, free yourself from judgement and see the rainbow.


Wishing you health, harmony and happiness
Kylie and Leanne

Thursday 3 September 2015

Hooray for Spring

Spring is here and this month is a perfect time to start planning and actioning all those wonderful projects and changes you had running through your head during winter.

Use the energy of new life surrounding you to give birth to your ideas, hopes and dreams and start the process of creating the new life for yourself that you've imagined.

But remember don't get too stuck on any one plan or idea, be flexible and go with the flow. Instead of being totally focused on the end result why not enjoy the process along the way. To help you achieve this enjoyment try letting go of judgement of self, of others, of situation and of outcomes. Get out in nature whenever you can and notice how it to has a plan for growth and renewal but also see how adaptable it is. 

For this season of new beginnings, development and growth strive to be like a growing seedling - plant some sturdy roots down into the earth, grow tall and strong and branch out. Don't get angry at the sun if it's not shining as brightly as you want  or annoyed at the rain for not falling, don't get frustrated at yourself if you're not growing as quickly as you think you should or judge yourself for not providing the shade you had hoped for. Instead sway with the breeze, enjoy and appreciate each moment.

Yours in health, harmony & happiness
Kylie & Leanne